There is a couple of who I have known about 8 years. This
couple have been married for over 50 years. Just being with someone for 50
years says something in itself, don’t you think so? The wife is a spunky lady.
She is the type that tells you how she is feels. Her husband is a sweet man
that just goes with the flow of things.
Whenever, you talk to them talk about their marriage it is
always loving. When they look at each other you can feel and see their love for
each other. However, they are very quick to say it takes a lot of work. They
still are working on things because of the different stage in life that they
are in.
The wife says that she had to learn how to love and communicate.
She came from an abusive family. Her dad beat her every day up until a week
before she got married. The only reason for the week was because it gave time
for the bruises to heal.
Her husband showed her how to communicate without yelling or
hitting any one. However, she said that he was the only one that would be able
to show her this.
Now the husband says it is a lot of give and take. Along
with being willing to say I am sorry. He also say that you need to learn one
another’s strengths and weaknesses, you need to let the strengths shine and not
focus so much on the weaknesses. One of his wife’s weaknesses is that she liked
to spend money, however, she did not liked being questioned what she was
buying. They came upon an agreement that she would be giving spending money
that she could spend however, she wanted. She didn’t have to answer to anyone
about what she spent the money. Granted at first the money was only like $5.00,
she said it was hers.
When I was listening to Elder Wirthlin’s talking in October
2007 General Conference, Elder Wirthlin talks about a gentleman painting his
wife’s nails until she passed away. The
couple talked about above popped into my head. Right now the husband’s health is not doing
that great. The wife says it is her turn to take care of him. However, she
still pushes him to be the man he has always been.
The couple that Elder Wirthlin and my friends that I talked
about are great example of what we should do when we are married. Marriage is
hard work, however, it is worth it when you are with the right person to fight
your battles with.
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