Lessons Learned.....

Gottman’s book had a lot of really good information. The one thing that stood out the most to me is how important it is to communicate. There are many different ways to communicate, for example, body language, eyes, tones of your voice and how you say the words.

I am very guilty of having bad communication, especially if the conversation is not going the way I want it to. While reading Gottman’s book I was able to see how my communications style affects my different relationships with my family, friends and coworkers.

While talking with others that I or you do not agree with it is very important to listen to what the person is saying and not trying to think about what you are going to say next. I am not sure if this is human nature or not. I find myself doing this a lot. It is a very bad habit that is going to take a long time to try to break.

Another one that I am very guilt of is giving the cold shoulder when I am mad. I have learned that this does not help with anything. It only makes me mad and doesn’t help resolve the issue at hand.

Gottman’s has a lot of great information for not just couples but for anyone to learn from. If you can apply one of his ideas into your life, your relationships will be stronger and better off in the long run.